It is always a problem for busy Asians to find time on their schedule to date. Speed dating is one of the best ways to find a partner or someone whom you wish to build a relationship with.
My black speed dating tips below are all focused on one thing, how to quickly identify the right person to follow up with. Speed dating works by allowing each participant 8 minutes to find out if both of you like one another before you move on to the next person. Therefore, it is important that you use this time wisely.
Firstly, get a general feel of what the other black Asian person is like. This can be about anything but try to prompt the other person to reveal on his or her opinion on things you feel strongly about. This will allow you to get a feel of what he or she is like and then you make a better judgement on whether he/she is suitable for you. For example, if you are passionate about a certain sport, ask if he plays it. If he/she too is passionate about this same sport, then you might probably want to get his or her number.
Secondly, find out what kind of (black Asian) relationship he wants and voice out what you are looking for. By this, I am referring to whether he/she wants a fling or a long-term relationship likely to develop into marriage. This is especially important as you don't want to get yourself into something you are not prepared for. If you are just trying to expand your network or just trying to have fun, make your stand known. In the case that both of you are looking for the same thing, you can move on to the next step.
Last but not least, in black Asian speed dating, it is important to know if he/she has had any previous experiences with dating. This allows you to find out if he/she has ever been in a relationship or even married and divorced. If he/she was previously married/in a relationship, you don't have to dismiss him or her immediately. Find out why he/she broke up with his/her previous partner. With this knowledge, you would be in a better position to determine if you will be able to have a sustainable relationship with the person opposite you.
Like I said before, the above tips were more targeted to getting a general understanding about the other person so that you can decide if you want to go further with him/her. Quick decisions have to be made so these tips are angled that way. With luck, you will be able to exchange numbers with a few people by the end of the session and you can follow up with them individually after that.
Kenneth Black,
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